![Dear Harsh Tongues,
I’ve been observing recently that hayaa’ in speech is slowly getting lost.This is a reminder for myself before anyone because this is something that I struggle with as well.But our Ummah is becoming more and more harsh with one another.We claim to love the Prophet, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam and we claim to follow his sunnah,but then we publicly humiliate our own brethern. We publicly pass rude, offensive comments by them.We slander our own blood, we curse them, we eat their flesh through our words. What kind of love is that?
Sometimes when it comes to Islamic work or community activism whether it may be at school or masajid or MSA’s,I’ve noticed that some people think that being harsh and rude and assertiveis the way to change, that being harsh is the way to create change but wrong.Allah is telling his Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam in Surah Ali-Imran that,“So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”[3:159] Allah is reminding his Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam that the people would leave if he had been rude and harsh. When Allah is telling this to the most perfect of creation, where do you think we stand?
SubhanAllah. Why do we feel like we need to start an argument and a fight over every single small thing? If we don’t agree, well that’s because every one of us is different. Allah created “Abdullah” as ‘Abdullah’ and ‘Adam’ as ‘Adam’ so why do we start fights cause of petty differences. Every little issue isnt something to create a world war over. If someone is asking you that they don’t like something you’re doing, out of respect, out of good manners, if its something small just…stop. There is no need to bring out and start questioning them to bring out the exact ayah and the exact hadith and etc etc. What kind of manners is that? SubhanAllah.
Our Prophet, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam, was so kind even to those that threw trash at him, how do we justify creating just rifts with our own bretheren? When someone is going through something tough, why do we feel like we need to make them feel stupid cause we don’t see things like that? Why do feel like we need to make someone feel inferior if our levels of religiosity are not the same? Why are we always so harsh, so jerk-like when Islam should make us soft, should make our hearts soft which should reflect from us?
This a reminder to myself first. Whether this is occuring in families, or friends, or masajids, or MSA’s or communities, this is a dilemma that we need to tackle inshaa’Allah.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lxwstmFkuf1qiilewo1_500.jpg)
I’ve been observing recently that hayaa’ in speech is slowly getting lost.
This is a reminder for myself before anyone because this is something that I struggle with as well.
But our Ummah is becoming more and more harsh with one another.
We claim to love the Prophet, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam and we claim to follow his sunnah,
but then we publicly humiliate our own brethern. We publicly pass rude, offensive comments by them.
We slander our own blood, we curse them, we eat their flesh through our words. What kind of love is that?
Sometimes when it comes to Islamic work or community activism whether it may be at school or masajid or MSA’s,
I’ve noticed that some people think that being harsh and rude and assertive
is the way to change, that being harsh is the way to create change but wrong.
Allah is telling his Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam in Surah Ali-Imran that,
“So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”[3:159]
Allah is reminding his Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam that the people would leave if he had been rude and harsh. When Allah is telling this to the most perfect of creation, where do you think we stand?
SubhanAllah. Why do we feel like we need to start an argument and a fight over every single small thing? If we don’t agree, well that’s because every one of us is different. Allah created “Abdullah” as ‘Abdullah’ and ‘Adam’ as ‘Adam’ so why do we start fights cause of petty differences. Every little issue isnt something to create a world war over. If someone is asking you that they don’t like something you’re doing, out of respect, out of good manners, if its something small just…stop. There is no need to bring out and start questioning them to bring out the exact ayah and the exact hadith and etc etc. What kind of manners is that? SubhanAllah.
Our Prophet, salla Allahu alayhi wasalam, was so kind even to those that threw trash at him, how do we justify creating just rifts with our own bretheren? When someone is going through something tough, why do we feel like we need to make them feel stupid cause we don’t see things like that? Why do feel like we need to make someone feel inferior if our levels of religiosity are not the same? Why are we always so harsh, so jerk-like when Islam should make us soft, should make our hearts soft which should reflect from us?
This a reminder to myself first. Whether this is occuring in families, or friends, or masajids, or MSA’s or communities, this is a dilemma that we need to tackle inshaa’Allah.
